Field notes for a hotter marriage.
Research-grounded, refreshingly direct essays on desire in long-term relationships — with the creators who show what articles can't.
The Choking Problem: What Porn Taught a Generation That Nobody Agreed To
Two-thirds of college women now report being choked during sex — and the most common place anyone learned the move is porn. Ali on the data, the danger nobody mentions, and what actually separates edge from harm.
New territory · FetishIs a Foot Fetish Normal? Yes — It's the Most Common Fetish There Is
You've been guarding it like a crime. The research says it's the single most common body-part attraction in existence. Luna on the numbers, the neuroscience, and how to bring it home without making it weird.
Technique · Her pleasureWhy Doesn't She Orgasm With You? The Gap, the Data, and the Fix
Ninety-five percent of men usually finish. Sixty-five percent of women can say the same. Mari on the 30-point orgasm gap — what the research says actually closes it, and the mistake that guarantees it stays open.
The body · PerformanceWhy It Fails Exactly When It Matters Most: The Performance Anxiety Loop
Fine on ordinary nights, gone on the night you planned for weeks. That's not a coincidence and it's not your body failing — it's a loop with a name, a mechanism, and an exit.
Confidence · InitiationThe First-Move Problem: Why Initiating Feels Impossible After Year Five
You can close deals and speak in meetings, but you can't put your hand on your own wife's waist. The awkwardness is structural, not personal — and the workaround isn't courage. It's shrinking the move.
She Said Yes to Being Dominated — Now What?
You ran the runway, she said yes, and now you're more nervous than she is. Luna's playbook for the first scene: small, scripted, and landed so well she asks for the second one.
Why Did I Lose Interest in My Wife? The Question Men Are Too Ashamed to Google
The whole internet assumes it's her desire that died. When it's yours, the shame is worse and the advice is nonexistent. Mari on the six quiet causes — and which one is probably yours.